The fact is – first dates can make you stressed, especially if you consider that you are meeting someone new. And that someone new can become your special someone if things go the right way. Unfortunately, nerves can make a man do or say something he normally wouldn’t. So, if you are about to go on a first date, be prepared, and read the following things that you should avoid.
Don’t Forget Your Manners
Remember, being classy and well-mannered in never out of style. Regardless of the country you and your lady come from. For American, French, or Russian girls dating is a way for them to see what kind of man you are. So, be polite, say please and thank you and when you are at dinner – eat with your mouth closed. Be cautious, your lady will also notice how you treat others.
Don’t Turn Up Sloppy and Smelly
First impressions matter and you will hardly have chances for a second date if you show up looking messy. Shower before the date, brush your teeth and always, always wear clean and appropriate clothes. And don’t forget about perfume. After all, your possible future partner deserves to see you as your best self.
Don’t Forget to Show Interest
Spending the entire evening talking only about yourself is a big no. It is okay to share a few things, but don’t overdo it. You are there to get to know each other. You should ask questions and let her say a few things about her and her life too. And make sure that you listen with attention.
Don’t Talk For Her
She is a grown woman, so you don’t have to order instead of her, or answer for her. This could be an exception if she did ask you to do something for her. Otherwise, give her space to act independently and respect her choices and opinions.
Don’t Comment on her Meal Choice
If you decided to take your date to dinner, don’t try to persuade her to have whatever you are having. Sure, you can make a recommendation, but it should still be her decision. And after she orders, don’t feel like you need to comment about her choice. Ask if she liked her dinner, but that should be it.
Don’t Drink Too Much
If you like your wine, do order. But, don’t let yourself get drunk. It may relieve some of the stress you feel, but if you drink too much, you may say things you later regret. Don’t risk it.
Don’t Talk About Your Ex
The romantic setting of a first date may bring some thought of a previous loved one, but don’t ever mention it out loud. Try to focus on the person beside you, and avoid talking about past relationships on the first date. Plus, your date may get the impression that you are comparing them.
Don’t Mention Marriage and Children Yet
There are cases when even on the first date you get the feeling that the person next to you is the one. Even if that is true and beautiful, it is still too early to make real plans. Be patient and let things happen subtly. If it is meant to be, it will come.
Don’t Share Your Entire Life
First dates are about having fun and getting to know the other person. So, when you start talking about you, don’t go into overly detailed stories, and leave a few things for the second date.
Don’t Get Too Intimate
Avoid turning the entire evening into a means to get some action. Touching should be subtle and always keep in mind your date’s boundaries. Don’t mention sex, and when the evening is at the end, kiss your date only if she implies she would want to. Otherwise, keep the intimacy for the next few dates.